How Does Your Vision Feel?

When I was a little girl, I used to work out in the garage with my dad.  He loved to fix up cars and had a big garage where he could pull them in and continue to work on them.  I used to hand him tools, or hold the flashlight.  I’m sure I talked non-stop and asked tons of questions, but I was also learning.  I can’t say that I have replaced a motor in a car, but I have seen it done.
 
The interesting thing is that even though this task involves detailed work, my dad has had extremely poor eyesight since he was a young child, due to a hereditary disease, which continued to get worse as he aged.  He’s now legally blind.  I never really considered how difficult some of his daily tasks must have been, or why he got so frustrated when Mom moved things around on him.  I knew he had poor eyesight, but I didn’t know that it was different than other people.  Reflecting back, I now see that he had found ways to adjust that...
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New Thoughts on How to Act As If It's Impossible to Fail

Have you ever heard the quote, “Act as if it’s impossible to fail.” from Dorthea Brande’s Wake Up and Live?
 
I've heard this saying so many times over my career, and in my entrepreneur endeavors, that I never really stopped to give it much thought.  Recently I felt the need to dig into this saying a little deeper and understand it more fully.  
 
On the surface, I’ve always felt like this saying was essentially translated into ‘fake it until you make it’ mindset.  This is a mindset I don’t fully support. Transparency and authenticity are so important to me, that I’ve found it difficult to encourage others to fake anything.  Of course, that’s not the intention of the ‘fake it until you make it’ mindset, but I’m a literal person and I just couldn’t get comfortable with this mentality.  Which, may be why I’ve been slow to embrace this quote…but not...
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Clarifying Your Identity Disparities

The other night, my daughter had gotten in trouble and had to spend some alone time in her room.  When she came out, she came to me very thoughtfully and asked if we could talk about something.  Of course, I could feel that there was something coming in the impending conversation.
 
She said to me, “Sometimes I think I’m dumb”.
 
She’s eight, and this is what is weighing on her mind.  How often do we have similar thoughts?  How often do we wonder how others see us and how we see ourselves?  But the real question is, how often do we decide how we want to see ourselves and make it happen?
 
As we’ve walked through the process of discovering your intentional identity in my previous posts (Starting here).  I’d venture to guess that the answers you put down don’t always align with the thoughts in our head.  And, now days, weeks, or quarantines later, maybe you’re in a different mood or place...
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Being There For Others in Times of Crisis

For the past couple of months, each of us has been dealing with our own version of change and challenges during this crisis and unprecedented situation.  We have also clearly seen that each of us had unique aspects to our situations.  Some are struggling with losing a job or a loved one.  Others are struggling with maintaining a work from home career on top of homeschooling.  Even others are trying to keep their small business afloat despite a lack of customers and income.
 
During these times, we may each go through waves of feelings.  From overwhelmed to bored, from stressed out to grateful, and everywhere in between.  One of the things we may be encountering is a significant difference between your personal situation and that of friends, relatives, and colleagues you encounter on a regular basis.
 
I know personally I have both struggled with my situation and also felt guilty that I had it so well while others were struggling so much more....
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Returning to a New 'Normal'

The focus of society these days seems to be how and when we can get back to normal, post coronavirus.  While it may not quite be ready to fully reopen, we are starting to see some of the restrictions relaxed.
 
If you’re like me, you may be looking ahead and wondering what ‘normal’ might look like.  Can I suggest a few things to consider as you begin to plan how and when you will return to your pre-corona activities.
 
Make A Personal Decision
I’ve heard it said about this crisis that we are all in the same storm, but in a different boat.  It’s very important to remember that we are not all in the same boat and therefore we will all need to make smart and safe decisions for our family on how and when we return to normal activities.  In this type of situation there may be a lot of pressure and influence, on social media or the news, or judgement from other individuals on the choices you are making in your situation....
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Certainty About Uncertainty

When I ask my friends and family what they are struggling to most with in the current situation, under stay-at-home orders due to COVID-19, the answer I hear repeatedly is uncertainty.  

They are worried about the future…what will happen, how long with this last, when will we get back to normal, how bad is it going to get…you get the idea.  They are burdened with making wrong decisions amidst constantly changing information.  They are feeling out of control.  Uncertainty is the word that they use to describe their feelings.

The interesting thing about this term is that I feel much more certain these days than uncertain.  On a normal day, I would encounter a lot more uncertainty and lack of control than I do in the shelter at home environment that I am currently in.  Sure, there are definitely unexpected things that are occurring in the world around me, but I have never been in control of each individual day more that I have been in the...

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Life in the Time of Corona

In light of this unique occasion, I am taking a break from my previous blog series and changing focus for a bit. Today I want to share thoughts and observations from this unprecedented time in history.

We are four weeks into isolation, quarantine, social distancing, stay-at-home orders…whatever you want to call it. In my household, we have been safe at home for a month now. Our particular version of quarantine includes me working from home, my husband’s clinic closed and him homeschooling a 5th and 2nd grader. We both spend time each day as cook, housekeeper, technical support, personal trainer, activities director, project manager, employee, and business owner. While we have two extroverts and two introverts in the family, there is a good combination of time alone and time together for all of us. We are thankful for our home and yard, which give us space to share together, and to spread out and be alone, when necessary.

I was telling my 11 year old son the other day...

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Composing Your Personal Mission Statement

Over the past few weeks, I have provided you with a few exercises to help you frame who you are and what success means to you.  Now that you have taken the time to understand your origin story, core values, and personality, creating a Personal Mission Statement is the next step that brings all of those pieces together to define your Intentional Identity.
 
As I mentioned in my previous posts, you won’t be successful until you know who you are.  Because, when it comes to success, one of the key components is a clear definition of what success look like to you.  Without defining what success is to you, you will never know if you have reached it, or whether you are even on the right track.  And, while success is more than understanding who you are, this understanding is the foundation.
 
After the exercises of the past few weeks, you now have a solid foundation to build your future.  A future that follows the path of success as you have...
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Realizing Your Personality Traits

As I've discussed in a previous post, Intentional Identity is the clear, unapologetic view of yourself. It’s living authentically, understanding where you’ve come from, where you are today, and where you want to be in the future. I firmly believe that the foundation for your path to success is defining your Intentional Identity and using it to drive your future vision and actions.
 
In order to truly discover your Intentional Identity, I've outlined the following five step process:
  • Documenting Your Origin Story
  • Understanding Your Motivations
  • Realizing Your Personality Traits
  • Composing Your Personal Mission Statement
  • Clarifying Your Identity Disparities
Are there any personality traits you've heard others apply to you consistently throughout your life? For me, this is a definite yes! Bossy, direct, talks too much, smart, sassy...and many more.
 
Whether we like them or not, there are particular traits that are inherent to who we are as an individual....
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Understanding Your Motivations

The thoughts and feelings you have, the actions that you take, the dreams you aspire to, and everything in between start with your Core Values.  Those philosophies and principles that define what's most important to you also define your motivation in any situation.  Whether you realize it or not, they are the components you will use to make decisions.
 
Core values are those deeply held, intrinsic motivations that drive each decision we make and how we prioritize our lives.  For many of us, we have never stopped to think about what we value and why. 
 
I remember the first time I did this exercise about 6 years ago.  We were encouraged in a team meeting to review a list of values and select the 5-10 that were most important to us.  It was eye opening for me to see how different the answers were for the 10 people in the room.  I guess I had never really given much thought to the realization that we are all...
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