Breaking Unconscious Habits

 

There are so many things we do every day that are completely automatic, thanks to our subconscious minds.  This can be a good thing and make us more efficient, it can also be our downfall.  

If we aren't able to recognize and challenge the subconscious behaviors, we won't be able to put a stop to those that are hurting us, or no longer serving us.

Here's a quick video to provide you with a simple exercise to challenge your subconscious.  This exercise will teach you to be mindful, instead of acting automatically, and it will teach you that it is possible to reprogram subconscious behaviors.  It may also show you that you must be committed and persistent if you want to see lasting change.

Have fun with this challenge and let me know how it goes, you can post about it and tag me on social media, or send me an email at jennifer@jennthoma.com.

Good luck!

Continue Reading...

You have permission

I'm giving you permission right now.  But the thing is, you’ve always had it…or, even more accurately, you don't need it.
 
It seems like there are a lot of people who have really great ideas for businesses or projects, and they talk about it quite a bit, but what they are really waiting for is someone to give them permission to do something with that idea.
 
Permission though is overrated.  In fact, I’m sure that you know a fair amount of people who don’t wait for permission.  People who choose not to follow the ‘rules’…and they generally get away with it.  No one is giving these people permission to break the ‘rules', they are giving themselves permission to do what they need to do, even though it may conflict with the ‘rules’ of others.
 
I know for me, I'm a good girl…I generally follow the rules.  I mean, I'm a compliance officer in my corporate job, so rule following is...
Continue Reading...

Vision Board Manifestation

 
The other day I was asked about my take on vision boards. I've tried a lot of different things in the past relative to vision boarding.
 
The first thing I remember is that I was working with an individual, through the Chamber of Commerce, and he was a mentor of mine. He was helping me decide what my future vision would be and how to achieve that level of success. At the time, this was about 20 years ago, he sat me down and we went through an entire visioning exercise. I don't remember the details of the exercise, but I do remember the outcomes.   The outcome showed very clearly a few different things that I wanted to happen in the course of my career and in my personal life. He mentored me for a few weeks and then we had this outcome of the vision board or the vision statement actually.  I thought that was a nice exercise but didn't really put it all together, or get it.  I put it in a file folder, closed the door, and didn't really look back...
Continue Reading...

Failure Is Not Real

failure growth mindset Jun 17, 2020
Failure is not real.
 
That’s a pretty profound statement.  And, it’s something I’m learning, and something I think everyone could benefit from understanding on a deeper level.
 
Failure is not something you can touch, or see.  It’s not an actual three-dimensional thing.  Failure is only a thought or a belief that we have about something.
 
Often, we accept the thought or belief of failure as a hard and fast truth.   However, thoughts are only a compilation of what we have been taught or learned from the past, with our own personal filter and biases.  Once we recognize a thought, like failure, that doesn’t serve us, we should take the opportunity to challenge the thought.  Once we recognize that what we are thinking is not true, or real, we can purposefully redirect it to a thought that better serves us.  Changing the way we think, particularly with regard to failure, will change the way we feel and in...
Continue Reading...

How Does Your Vision Feel?

When I was a little girl, I used to work out in the garage with my dad.  He loved to fix up cars and had a big garage where he could pull them in and continue to work on them.  I used to hand him tools, or hold the flashlight.  I’m sure I talked non-stop and asked tons of questions, but I was also learning.  I can’t say that I have replaced a motor in a car, but I have seen it done.
 
The interesting thing is that even though this task involves detailed work, my dad has had extremely poor eyesight since he was a young child, due to a hereditary disease, which continued to get worse as he aged.  He’s now legally blind.  I never really considered how difficult some of his daily tasks must have been, or why he got so frustrated when Mom moved things around on him.  I knew he had poor eyesight, but I didn’t know that it was different than other people.  Reflecting back, I now see that he had found ways to adjust that...
Continue Reading...

New Thoughts on How to Act As If It's Impossible to Fail

Have you ever heard the quote, “Act as if it’s impossible to fail.” from Dorthea Brande’s Wake Up and Live?
 
I've heard this saying so many times over my career, and in my entrepreneur endeavors, that I never really stopped to give it much thought.  Recently I felt the need to dig into this saying a little deeper and understand it more fully.  
 
On the surface, I’ve always felt like this saying was essentially translated into ‘fake it until you make it’ mindset.  This is a mindset I don’t fully support. Transparency and authenticity are so important to me, that I’ve found it difficult to encourage others to fake anything.  Of course, that’s not the intention of the ‘fake it until you make it’ mindset, but I’m a literal person and I just couldn’t get comfortable with this mentality.  Which, may be why I’ve been slow to embrace this quote…but not...
Continue Reading...

Clarifying Your Identity Disparities

The other night, my daughter had gotten in trouble and had to spend some alone time in her room.  When she came out, she came to me very thoughtfully and asked if we could talk about something.  Of course, I could feel that there was something coming in the impending conversation.
 
She said to me, “Sometimes I think I’m dumb”.
 
She’s eight, and this is what is weighing on her mind.  How often do we have similar thoughts?  How often do we wonder how others see us and how we see ourselves?  But the real question is, how often do we decide how we want to see ourselves and make it happen?
 
As we’ve walked through the process of discovering your intentional identity in my previous posts (Starting here).  I’d venture to guess that the answers you put down don’t always align with the thoughts in our head.  And, now days, weeks, or quarantines later, maybe you’re in a different mood or place...
Continue Reading...

Being There For Others in Times of Crisis

For the past couple of months, each of us has been dealing with our own version of change and challenges during this crisis and unprecedented situation.  We have also clearly seen that each of us had unique aspects to our situations.  Some are struggling with losing a job or a loved one.  Others are struggling with maintaining a work from home career on top of homeschooling.  Even others are trying to keep their small business afloat despite a lack of customers and income.
 
During these times, we may each go through waves of feelings.  From overwhelmed to bored, from stressed out to grateful, and everywhere in between.  One of the things we may be encountering is a significant difference between your personal situation and that of friends, relatives, and colleagues you encounter on a regular basis.
 
I know personally I have both struggled with my situation and also felt guilty that I had it so well while others were struggling so much more....
Continue Reading...

Returning to a New 'Normal'

The focus of society these days seems to be how and when we can get back to normal, post coronavirus.  While it may not quite be ready to fully reopen, we are starting to see some of the restrictions relaxed.
 
If you’re like me, you may be looking ahead and wondering what ‘normal’ might look like.  Can I suggest a few things to consider as you begin to plan how and when you will return to your pre-corona activities.
 
Make A Personal Decision
I’ve heard it said about this crisis that we are all in the same storm, but in a different boat.  It’s very important to remember that we are not all in the same boat and therefore we will all need to make smart and safe decisions for our family on how and when we return to normal activities.  In this type of situation there may be a lot of pressure and influence, on social media or the news, or judgement from other individuals on the choices you are making in your situation....
Continue Reading...

Certainty About Uncertainty

When I ask my friends and family what they are struggling to most with in the current situation, under stay-at-home orders due to COVID-19, the answer I hear repeatedly is uncertainty.  

They are worried about the future…what will happen, how long with this last, when will we get back to normal, how bad is it going to get…you get the idea.  They are burdened with making wrong decisions amidst constantly changing information.  They are feeling out of control.  Uncertainty is the word that they use to describe their feelings.

The interesting thing about this term is that I feel much more certain these days than uncertain.  On a normal day, I would encounter a lot more uncertainty and lack of control than I do in the shelter at home environment that I am currently in.  Sure, there are definitely unexpected things that are occurring in the world around me, but I have never been in control of each individual day more that I have been in the...

Continue Reading...
1 2 3 4 5 6
Close

50% Complete

Let's Connect!

I can't wait to share my new articles and resources with you.