Replacing Your Limiting Beliefs in 5 Simple Steps

In my last blog post, I talked about what I had learned about limiting beliefs as a whole, and what I learned about my own personal limiting beliefs, particularly the thought, "I'm just not that special".
 
Since that time, I've been doing a little work on changing my limiting beliefs and I wanted to give you an update and a 5 step process on how to manage your own limiting beliefs,
 
First of all, based on the recommendations of the podcast, the first thing that I did is write out all of the things that I was saying to myself.  This was a bit of a weird exercise because as I was writing them, I knew in my head that they were not true. The crazy thing is, I also knew I would say them to myself internally quite regularly.  It was actually therapeutic just seeing them on paper! 
 
After that, I imagined myself saying those same things to my son or my daughter.  This  opened up a whole new level of consciousness about how negative and demeaning...
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Recognizing and Overcoming My Limiting Beliefs

I’ve heard about limiting beliefs...I've been around the block a bit with leadership and various entrepreneur and coaching activities. I've also tried to do a little work in this area over the years. But you know, sometimes you hear something a different way from a different person and the light bulb went on.
 
Yesterday was a light bulb moment for me.  I was listening to the ‘Art of Online Business’ podcast, by Rick Mulready. On Episode 270 “How to Overcome the Limiting Beliefs that Are Stopping You.”, he interviewed Dr. Shannon Irvine. Everything they discussed during the program stuck with me for that day, and I found myself coming back to the ideas and solutions several times.  Especially, when I woke up fully rested at 3:30am and not ready to get out of bed…so I meditated on it.
 
As I said, I’ve thought quite a bit about limiting beliefs over the years but I never quite felt like I had settled on the exact...
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The best time, in your cycle, for new beginnings...

emotions hormones women Nov 18, 2019
In my last post, we spent some time understanding the Menstrual Phase of our cycle.  Now that we have that out of the way, we can move on to what I consider a more positive and fun phase in the monthly process…the follicular phase, also known as pre-ovulation.
 
This next phase of our cycle occurs generally from around day 5 through around day 12 (keeping in mind that these days are an estimate, as everyone cycles on their own schedule).  The follicular phase can be likened to the spring season or the waxing moon.  This is a time when things are budding and growing…your body is creating the potential for new life...and any type of creation comes easiest for you. 
 
For most women, this phase of the cycle feels very positive and forward looking.  It’s the perfect time to consider developing new ideas, brainstorming, starting new projects or planning ahead.  In particular, I often feel very inspired and energized…like...
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Maximizing the not-so-fun phases of your reproductive cycle.

emotions hormones women Nov 13, 2019
Following up on my previous post, regarding the effects of hormones and the reproductive cycle on your emotions, I’m going to dig a little deeper this time and discuss the Menstrual Phase of my cycle.  Particularly, I want to share what I have learned about how to use the natural flow of your body and hormones to maximize your energy and emotions during this phase.
 
The Menstrual Phase is the most recognizable phase of our cycle because it has the outward physical act of bleeding.  This cycle is usually considered the beginning, or day 1 in fertility tracking.  During this phase of your cycle, which usually lasts about 3-5 days, your body begins to shed the lining of your uterus and starts to prepare your body for the another cycle and another possibility of reproduction. 
 
Most women would not find this to be the most interesting or exciting part of their monthly cycle.  Quite the contrary, I actually think many would find it to be...
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“I’m your Venus…” Hormones, emotions your cycle.

emotions hormones women Oct 31, 2019
When it comes to emotions and women in business, I would be remise if I didn’t have a conversation about hormones.  I know many of us will think this is a taboo topic, and maybe even be offended that I would admit to the world that for me, and many other women, there are times when we do not have control of our hormones.  And it's clear that when we do not have control of our hormones, we will also not have control of our emotions.  For me, this correlation has become crystal clear, particularly when it comes to the attitude and emotional changes found at the end of my cycle, sometimes diagnosed as Premenstrual Syndrome (PMS).
 
That’s right ladies, PMS is real…it’s a thing that we need to learn to manage and cope with.  However, I have learned through research over the past couple of years, that PMS isn’t a terrible, awful thing to be dreaded. It’s part of a bigger package of hormones and emotions that we can use to our...
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Reframing your fear...

emotions fear reframe Oct 23, 2019
One of the big emotions we deal with on a regular basis is fear.  As it relates to our emotions, fear can manifest itself in a couple of different ways.  Either fear is the emotion we are feeling that prevents emotional control, for example fear of crying in a business situation, or fear itself is the emotion we are feeling in a given moment, for example fear of public speaking.
 
Whichever we are dealing with, the important thing to remember is that everything good is on the other side of fear.  If you’re like me, you’ve heard that saying before and maybe it didn’t really sink in in a productive way.  But recently I’ve revisited this topic and taken a different view of managing my fear.
 
When it comes to fear, I realized that fear is a perfect opportunity for reframing.  When we can retrain our thoughts to understand that fear is  excitement or a gearing up for a challenging situation instead of something to prevent...
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How to Actually "Let It Go"

Uncategorized Oct 14, 2019
Have you ever been in a meeting or other important conversation where you had something you really wanted to share, or a great idea that you wanted everyone to know about...and then someone interrupts you...or even worse takes credit for your idea?
 
This has happened to me several times, as it does with many women in business environments.  And when it does, it turns into one of those moments where I am seething with anger on the inside, but afraid to show my emotion on the outside.
 
In this case, making a statement will likely turn into a conflict that’s not worth having, or even worse, an emotional outburst that will leave me crying (and deemed ‘too sensitive’).
 
One technique I have found, in these type of situations, allows me to both deflate my anger and state my case or opinion without the emotional reaction.  It’s called the Drop Down Through technique and it comes from the world of Neuro Linguistic Programming.
 
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4 Focus Areas for Managing Emotional Thresholds

emotion productivity women Oct 07, 2019
When it comes to emotions, I believe we all have a general threshold level.  This is the level you want to stay below so that you don’t lose your marbles
 
When we are able to manage certain things in our life, that help us to stay well below our threshold, then surprises and unexpected road bumps won’t launch us into emotional outrage.  However, if we are not actively managing our emotional thresholds, when circumstances or events pile on, and put us over the threshold, the likelihood of holding it all together becomes less and less.
 
If you’re having a hard time dealing with your emotions, it might be worth taking a look at these four areas to see if there are steps you can take to bring your emotional tolerance below your threshold.
 
Sleep – I know there are a lot of people who pride themselves on being able to go without a full night’s sleep. But the truth is, sleep requirements are different for everyone.  If you are...
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Recovering gracefully after an emotional outburst...

business emotion women Oct 02, 2019
You’ve reacted emotionally.  Now you’re feeling guilty and embarrassed.
 
You’re wondering how you will ever face that person, or those people again.  I've been there too. Don’t beat yourself up.  You are learning and growing, you’re not going to be perfect overnight…or ever probably, but that’s a different post for a different time.  For now, I have some advice on how to handle the next day jitters and move on with dignity.  
 
First and foremost, do not apologize!  I mean it! This is almost always my first reaction, and the reaction of most women in many different situations. The truth is, we are not sorry for our emotions.  Instead, break the ice with a statement like, “Thanks for hanging in there yesterday when I got emotional.  I just feel really passionate about this topic.  I appreciate you hearing me out.
 
Gratitude is ALWAYS better than remorse. You can even...
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Sensitive...or really just pissed off?

business emotion women Sep 23, 2019
I was so angry.  This was just one more example of how this colleague was trying to make my team look bad.  I had enough and today I was going to tell them my frustrations.  And I did.  It was going well, until I started crying.  Through the sniffling and nose wiping, my effectiveness dropped immediately.  I started hearing comments like, “don’t take it personal”, or “I didn’t mean to hurt your feelings”.  Now I was even more mad.  My Achilles heel had reared its ugly head again.  My feelings weren’t hurt, I was pissed!  But, like many women I know, when I get angry I get tears. 
 
Does this story sound familiar to you?
 
Why is it that ‘emotion’ is used to describe tears but ‘passion’ is used to describe yelling?  I believe this is one of those quintessential male and female conundrums that will likely never be solved. When we cry we are then...
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