Life in the Time of Corona

In light of this unique occasion, I am taking a break from my previous blog series and changing focus for a bit. Today I want to share thoughts and observations from this unprecedented time in history.

We are four weeks into isolation, quarantine, social distancing, stay-at-home orders…whatever you want to call it. In my household, we have been safe at home for a month now. Our particular version of quarantine includes me working from home, my husband’s clinic closed and him homeschooling a 5th and 2nd grader. We both spend time each day as cook, housekeeper, technical support, personal trainer, activities director, project manager, employee, and business owner. While we have two extroverts and two introverts in the family, there is a good combination of time alone and time together for all of us. We are thankful for our home and yard, which give us space to share together, and to spread out and be alone, when necessary.

I was telling my 11 year old son the other day...

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Performance vs. Trust

Have you ever considered if you prefer colleagues and team members based on their performance or trust? 
 
I was challenged the other day by a video presentation from Simon Sinek. He was recounting a discussion with Navy Seals on how they determine who participates in the most elite teams. In this discussion, he presents a quadrant with performance (how well you achieve their objectives) on one axis, and trust (what kind of person you are) on the other. Of course, he found that individuals with low performance and low trust are the least desirable and people with high performance and high trust are the most desirable. After that, the conversation got interesting. The Seals told Simon that they preferred individuals with moderate performance and high trust, and even low performance and high trust, over individuals with high performance and low trust…indicating that trust was more important than performance.
 
I found this research very interesting.  It...
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Recovering gracefully after an emotional outburst...

business emotion women Oct 02, 2019
You’ve reacted emotionally.  Now you’re feeling guilty and embarrassed.
 
You’re wondering how you will ever face that person, or those people again.  I've been there too. Don’t beat yourself up.  You are learning and growing, you’re not going to be perfect overnight…or ever probably, but that’s a different post for a different time.  For now, I have some advice on how to handle the next day jitters and move on with dignity.  
 
First and foremost, do not apologize!  I mean it! This is almost always my first reaction, and the reaction of most women in many different situations. The truth is, we are not sorry for our emotions.  Instead, break the ice with a statement like, “Thanks for hanging in there yesterday when I got emotional.  I just feel really passionate about this topic.  I appreciate you hearing me out.
 
Gratitude is ALWAYS better than remorse. You can even...
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Sensitive...or really just pissed off?

business emotion women Sep 23, 2019
I was so angry.  This was just one more example of how this colleague was trying to make my team look bad.  I had enough and today I was going to tell them my frustrations.  And I did.  It was going well, until I started crying.  Through the sniffling and nose wiping, my effectiveness dropped immediately.  I started hearing comments like, “don’t take it personal”, or “I didn’t mean to hurt your feelings”.  Now I was even more mad.  My Achilles heel had reared its ugly head again.  My feelings weren’t hurt, I was pissed!  But, like many women I know, when I get angry I get tears. 
 
Does this story sound familiar to you?
 
Why is it that ‘emotion’ is used to describe tears but ‘passion’ is used to describe yelling?  I believe this is one of those quintessential male and female conundrums that will likely never be solved. When we cry we are then...
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The first time I negotiated my salary...

We are currently going through our annual compensation reviews at my company and this got me reflecting on how my salary, position, and self worth have evolved over the years. One particular story came to mind that I thought would be worthwhile to share.

 

During one point earlier in my career, I was working with members of senior management to create a new position that I was tapped to hold.  This position would be a stretch opportunity for me.  It included new areas of responsibility, quadruple the size of employees to manage, and several challenges to overcome.  I was definitely interested, but knew it would take more of my time and energy than my current role.  With two small children at home during that time, and a husband starting his own business, I had some serious logistical issues to work through.  My husband and I sat down and discussed what I thought the impact would be, how we could solve some of our logistical concerns, and how much I...

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Best Year Ever Live 2019

business productivity Jan 30, 2019

I've mentioned in my previous posts that I visited the Nashville area a few weeks ago. I was actually in Franklin Tennessee at the Best Year Ever Live 2019 Conference put on by Michael Hyatt & Co.

For about a year now, I have been using Michael Hyatt tools like the the Full Focus Planner, podcasts, and even a membership to the LeaderBox book club. I was so excited about going to this conference and learning how to set clear goals and action plans for the coming year...how to get more done and take on more projects without stressing myself out. But, this conference was not what I expected, it was better!

 

At the conference!

 

Instead of learning how to do more, I was encouraged by other high achievers to dig deeper, face my fears, and direct my focus on what is really important to me...not what I think SHOULD be important to me, or what other people expect of me.

While initially I didn't want to spend my time on these exercises, I did find that I was holding...

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