How Does Your Vision Feel?

When I was a little girl, I used to work out in the garage with my dad.  He loved to fix up cars and had a big garage where he could pull them in and continue to work on them.  I used to hand him tools, or hold the flashlight.  I’m sure I talked non-stop and asked tons of questions, but I was also learning.  I can’t say that I have replaced a motor in a car, but I have seen it done.
 
The interesting thing is that even though this task involves detailed work, my dad has had extremely poor eyesight since he was a young child, due to a hereditary disease, which continued to get worse as he aged.  He’s now legally blind.  I never really considered how difficult some of his daily tasks must have been, or why he got so frustrated when Mom moved things around on him.  I knew he had poor eyesight, but I didn’t know that it was different than other people.  Reflecting back, I now see that he had found ways to adjust that...
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Clarifying Your Identity Disparities

The other night, my daughter had gotten in trouble and had to spend some alone time in her room.  When she came out, she came to me very thoughtfully and asked if we could talk about something.  Of course, I could feel that there was something coming in the impending conversation.
 
She said to me, “Sometimes I think I’m dumb”.
 
She’s eight, and this is what is weighing on her mind.  How often do we have similar thoughts?  How often do we wonder how others see us and how we see ourselves?  But the real question is, how often do we decide how we want to see ourselves and make it happen?
 
As we’ve walked through the process of discovering your intentional identity in my previous posts (Starting here).  I’d venture to guess that the answers you put down don’t always align with the thoughts in our head.  And, now days, weeks, or quarantines later, maybe you’re in a different mood or place...
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Performance vs. Trust

Have you ever considered if you prefer colleagues and team members based on their performance or trust? 
 
I was challenged the other day by a video presentation from Simon Sinek. He was recounting a discussion with Navy Seals on how they determine who participates in the most elite teams. In this discussion, he presents a quadrant with performance (how well you achieve their objectives) on one axis, and trust (what kind of person you are) on the other. Of course, he found that individuals with low performance and low trust are the least desirable and people with high performance and high trust are the most desirable. After that, the conversation got interesting. The Seals told Simon that they preferred individuals with moderate performance and high trust, and even low performance and high trust, over individuals with high performance and low trust…indicating that trust was more important than performance.
 
I found this research very interesting.  It...
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The Journey That Never Ends

deep thoughts emotion women Jan 23, 2020
About fifteen years ago, I completed a marathon. (I really can't believe it's been that long ago!). The race and the training leading up to it were an experience full of lessons that could be applied to every facet of my life.  One lesson in particular has stayed with me through all this time.  
 
On race day, I was so excited to run, reach the finish line, and accomplish my goal! I had not studied the map, so I wasn’t exactly sure where the finish was, but I knew when it was getting close.
 
The crowd was getting thicker and started encouraging the runners by saying “one more corner”.   Full of enthusiasm to finish strong and relaxation realizing I was almost done, I picked up my pace and put a little bounce in my blistered step.   I turned the corner excited and expecting to see the finish line...but it wasn’t there.  As far as l could see, all I saw was a block of people cheering me on, still shouting...
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4 Focus Areas for Managing Emotional Thresholds

emotion productivity women Oct 07, 2019
When it comes to emotions, I believe we all have a general threshold level.  This is the level you want to stay below so that you don’t lose your marbles
 
When we are able to manage certain things in our life, that help us to stay well below our threshold, then surprises and unexpected road bumps won’t launch us into emotional outrage.  However, if we are not actively managing our emotional thresholds, when circumstances or events pile on, and put us over the threshold, the likelihood of holding it all together becomes less and less.
 
If you’re having a hard time dealing with your emotions, it might be worth taking a look at these four areas to see if there are steps you can take to bring your emotional tolerance below your threshold.
 
Sleep – I know there are a lot of people who pride themselves on being able to go without a full night’s sleep. But the truth is, sleep requirements are different for everyone.  If you are...
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Recovering gracefully after an emotional outburst...

business emotion women Oct 02, 2019
You’ve reacted emotionally.  Now you’re feeling guilty and embarrassed.
 
You’re wondering how you will ever face that person, or those people again.  I've been there too. Don’t beat yourself up.  You are learning and growing, you’re not going to be perfect overnight…or ever probably, but that’s a different post for a different time.  For now, I have some advice on how to handle the next day jitters and move on with dignity.  
 
First and foremost, do not apologize!  I mean it! This is almost always my first reaction, and the reaction of most women in many different situations. The truth is, we are not sorry for our emotions.  Instead, break the ice with a statement like, “Thanks for hanging in there yesterday when I got emotional.  I just feel really passionate about this topic.  I appreciate you hearing me out.
 
Gratitude is ALWAYS better than remorse. You can even...
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Sensitive...or really just pissed off?

business emotion women Sep 23, 2019
I was so angry.  This was just one more example of how this colleague was trying to make my team look bad.  I had enough and today I was going to tell them my frustrations.  And I did.  It was going well, until I started crying.  Through the sniffling and nose wiping, my effectiveness dropped immediately.  I started hearing comments like, “don’t take it personal”, or “I didn’t mean to hurt your feelings”.  Now I was even more mad.  My Achilles heel had reared its ugly head again.  My feelings weren’t hurt, I was pissed!  But, like many women I know, when I get angry I get tears. 
 
Does this story sound familiar to you?
 
Why is it that ‘emotion’ is used to describe tears but ‘passion’ is used to describe yelling?  I believe this is one of those quintessential male and female conundrums that will likely never be solved. When we cry we are then...
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